What Kind of Person Are You?
This is wisdom at its best. I am a big fan of Tyler Perry and throughout this blog, I will be pulling quotes and things that I have reflected on over the years. I will never forget like most people on Facebook seeing the video where Tyler was dressed up like Medea in a stage play and said this. I got this off of his Facebook to share with you because we need to understand who we are right now. Read this and be honest. WHO ARE YOU based on this tree analogy?
“Some people come into your life and they are like leaves on a tree. They are only there for a season. You can't depend on them or count on them because they are weak and only there to give you shade. Like leaves, they are there to take what they need and as soon as it gets cold or a wind blows in your life they are gone. You can't be angry at them, it's just who they are.
There are some people who come into your life and they are like branches on a tree. They are stronger than leaves, but you have to be careful with them. They will stick around through most seasons, but if you go through a storm or two in your life it's possible that you could lose them. Most times they break away when it's tough. Although they are stronger than leaves, you have to test them out before you run out there and put all your weight on them. In most cases they can't handle too much weight. But again, you can't be mad with them, it's just who they are.
If you can find some people in your life who are like the roots of a tree then you have found something special. Like the roots of a tree, they are hard to find because they are not trying to be seen. Their only job is to hold you up and help you live a strong and healthy life. If you thrive, they are happy. They stay low key and don't let the world know that they are there. And if you go through an awful storm they will hold you up. Their job is to hold you up, come what may, and to nourish you, feed you and water you.
Just as a tree has many limbs and many leaves, there are few roots. Look at your own life. How many leaves, branches and roots do you have? What are you in other people's lives?
THANK GOD FOR YOUR ROOTS! You may want to call them today or share this message with them and attach your own note saying, "thanks for being my root".
By the way, don't waste your time sending this to a leaf, they won't get it anyway.”
Now, if you are like my mom, she will read this and think of every person other than herself first about where the people fit into this analogy. She was much like a casting director. That use to make me so mad because I never really got to have this deep level of soul connection with her while she was alive. Even when she read the bible, there would be all these stories and she would be putting in all the characters of her life in these roles and I didn’t see her as the main character and what her role was. Now, I know my mom thought she was a root and you know what, she was. Even though there was disconnection, lots of time spent apart and we didn’t talk all the time, I knew she would be there for me if I needed her to be. She didn’t need the spotlight and didn’t need everybody to know her role because she was comfortable in the role she was playing much like myself growing up to become a root. Roots attract other roots, but the ones I created have always been miles apart. I felt alone a lot. I have learned by being alone a lot that it was necessary for me to like my own company. That’s what it teaches you. My mom liked her own company even though she lived a tough life. I am amazed how many people I kept in my life that support me and stay connected with me. Roots are sacred people and they will never leave your side even though you don’t talk everyday and sometimes it’s been years since you saw them last. We forgive easily and let go of bullshit. Don’t confuse me for a sucker even though I have felt like one on a number of occasions, but who hasn’t? That’s a part of growing into forgiveness. That will be another story in this book.
Now, we all know some branch and leaf people. You are probably looking at the analogy again to figure out your circle you have around you. Really take a hard honest look in the mirror first though. Are you a leaf or branch? It’s ok. Once you recognize your patterns, you can take action to correct them, but according to Tyler, leaf people don’t understand. It will take them more time to get it. But most of the time, they won’t and I have dated a few of these and I am sure you have too, but at least if you are a branch or root, look at it this way, at least they are getting closer to becoming one themselves. That’s how I choose to look at it instead of allowing how somebody wronged me to bring my precious life energy down. We all can make that choice to move on with dignity, bravery and faith.
Don’t let these leaches get you down! Repeat after me, I am better than that bullshit. NEXT.